The worst thing that you can do as a Christian is to constantly appear to “have it all together.” Especially around your nonchristian friends and family. Being a Christian does not mean that you have all of your ducks in a row, nor does it mean that other people need to perceive you that way.
I was reading a wonderful blog post of encouraging links from my friend Sarah, and came across this one. (It is a must-read. Please stop reading my blog, go read that one, and then come back, right now.)
Although I don’t have any daughters of my own, it was something that I myself really needed to hear. We don’t need to “be an example” all the time. When we’re constantly trying to “be a good example” we often try to be perfect. And that’s really not a good example of following Christ at all. Some words from One Thing Your Daughter Doesn’t Need You To Say that really stuck out to me were that “she will become someone that her friends look up to, but not someone they can relate to.” We want to be relatable, not hiding behind our mask of Christ-like perfection. If we strive that hard to be perfect in order to show people Christ, we’re not resting in His perfection, we’re trying to save ourselves with our own perfection. And that’s not showing people Christ. If we tell our daughters, sisters, or friends to “be an example,” or we ourselves are trying to be that, then we may as well be telling them and ourselves, “Here, put on this mask. Don’t let them see you struggle. Don’t let them see that you’re a real person just like they are.”
It’s time to take off your mask and rest in Christ’s perfection, not create your own.